Sexual Tension In The Christian Community
How beautiful you are and how pleasing, my love, with your delights! Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit. I said, “I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit.” May your breasts be like clusters of grapes on the vine, the fragrance of your breath like apples, and your mouth like the best wine. May the wine go straight to my beloved, flowing gently over lips and teeth. I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. Songs of Songs 7: 6 -12
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Before going any further, if you are aware that you may not be mature enough / in a position to dive deep into sex topics, abstain from this article. The following text contains words that might trigger some audience, hence proceed at your discretion. This is with the intent to educate but to equally denounce the myths around sex and its perplexity in the Christian community.
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Welcome to happily married forever land! A land where GOD loves and enjoys to see a Married man insert his penis in the vagina of his wife, lick her boobs, kiss her from the neck, gently, slowly, softly down to her butt, tease her clitoris with the tip of his penis, finger, tongue or any other thing the holy spirit inspires him to do. By the way, my fellow ladies, you can equally sexually tease your husband, kiss his entire body, tease his lips with your boobs, be naked, half-naked, walk naked at home, cook in revealing clothes, eat while wearing an exotic garment, Sis... feel free his body is now yours, YOU ARE MARRIED! As proverbs, 5:19 declares: Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.
You might be wondering why such rawness in my words and I will reply to you: why such realness? These conversations should be normalized. Sex, orgasm, erection, penetration, mental stimulation are all normal and beautiful processes of life. I should have spoken about this years ago but I never really felt free to safely do so as you are automatically judged if you are not yet married. How funny ? “cause I have been carrying this vagina since my mother’s womb, & for more than 20 years and you expect me to learn how to properly use it on my wedding night? Let’s be honest, should I wait for the day of my exam to read my book? How successful is that? God created my vagina hence who else more than him will know how to better use it? Sexual pleasure and arousal are equally part of our blessings. Hence, whenever I have any questions I ask God. I needed to be prepared for my present sexual blessings which are not limited to having kids. I hope this makes you uncomfortable enough that it pushes you to involve God in your sexual life as God made you a sexual being. God is not only in the healing business or financial business of your life but equally the Founder & CEO of the sexually pleasing business of your life. Marriage is sweet!
Now, what happens when you are not yet married? Let’s take a look at the younger generation, shall we? Your 10-year-old son has been having wet dreams or woke up with an erected penis. He is confused and not comfortable talking to his parents. It’s taboo at home. Your 12-year-old daughter has noticed that she has certain desires while on her period. More precisely sexual desires but she is equally confused about what is truly happening to her. Yes, some women are horny while on their periods and even more so during the ovulation time frame. It is neither their fault if their bodies release what is commonly called love hormones nor can they stop it from happening. So, what do you tell these young folks? Do you wait for them to be at an age where they are close to getting married to truly discuss those topics? Well Newsflash: if their parents don’t, if the church doesn’t, the World will gladly do it for you with a smile. Children have sex today as early as 7 years old and these young children are neither ignorant as their parents choose to believe nor wise enough to fully understand the consequences. Parents unconsciously let porn & the media educate their sons on sex and wait for their daughter to come back with a pregnancy at 13 years old rather than educating them properly on sex. In your prayers, my fellow Christian parents, have you ever asked God what and how you should educate your children about sex at each age or stage of their lives? Let me guess, most likely not because you don’t even invite God in your sexual life much less so when it comes to educating your kids about sex.
Little prayer tip: Dear God, what sexual positions or moves should I do with my husband/wife tonight? I would love to ejaculate, make him/her ejaculate, and make sure we truly enjoy ourselves. You said in your words that you are a God of excellence hence please teach me how to have enjoyable sex with my wife/ my husband.
I have witnessed a 4-year-old boy inserting his fingers in the vagina of a 7-year-old girl! Were their parents around? No. And I thought to myself, how many times has this happened? As it didn’t seem to be the first time. This beautiful girl has been introduced to sex wrongfully while parents are still reluctant to educate their children properly. Most churches are equally very conservative on sex topics yet the World takes great pleasure in raising this generation about sex. Are you going to tell your four or 7-year-old to just pray about it? Oh, I forgot sex is taboo for you and you never created a Safe place for your kids to confide in you. Also, according to you, being sexual is from the devil. Poor baby, his/her main Sex-Ed teacher will now be some porn actors or ignorant friends who will teach your son that sex is just about rubbing his penis in a fast & rough manner in the vagina of a girl until he ejaculates so that he feels like “a Man.” Pathetic!
What about those young men who ejaculate too fast, who may later have issues satisfying their future wives sexually but can’t turn to their parents or pastor to seek help? Or that young lady who thinks sex is just a painful process because her vagina is dry, unaware that she can buy a lubricant or consult an ob-gyn, that the only sex position is the missionary position and the whole point of sex is just to have babies. Few years down the line, her husband cheats on her because he was weak in spirit and flesh. He was not sexually satisfied or he is uncomfortable to do new sexual moves with his wife thinking she is too pure to do that with him or he is tired of his wife laying down on the bed like a starfish or a wife who is too stuck up to discuss sex with her husband because it has always being a taboo topic at home, at church and she now believes her husband is possessed by demons because he enjoys sex. What about that wife who is sick and tired of faking ejaculation or moaning so that her husband ejaculates faster or to satisfy his crippling ego because all that the husband knows is just using his wife like a sex toy that helps him to ejaculate as portrayed in porn movies or a husband who can’t last in bed ‘cause he is addicted to masturbation & forgets that he is not married to a porn-star. Few years down the road, her marriage is threatened because she is weak in spirit and flesh. Her unromantic husband mainly cares about money, his fragile ego, his longtime ignorant friends, his sexual satisfaction, and gives more priority to his family than the family he is building with his wife. Later, she met a handsome, romantic man who exudes the character of someone who will be a great emotional, financial, spiritual, and sexual-pleasing partner.
Who is going to teach that young man that sex is not about violence in the bed, slapping your wife’s butt like a goat (unless she expressed she truly likes it rather than to be forced to like it), to not only have sex with his wife when he wants and to not have sex with her as if he is raping her? But rather teach him that sex starts in the morning when you wake up and kiss her forehead, pray for your wife, leave her a sweet message in the morning, check on her throughout the day, surprise her with a gift after work, contribute to the house chores, give her a massage, cover her with attention, ask her which sexual moves she likes & how she feels, that some days she may want soft-gentle sex and other days hard-core sex and that his priority should be that they both enjoy sex, that she equally ejaculated rather than to only focus on his sexual satisfaction? Who is going to teach; those future couples that they don’t have to only have sex in the bedroom but can have sex in the living room, kitchen, bathroom, in the closet, in the car, or any other place deemed private & appropriate, that they can ask God for inspiration on sexual moves instead of watching porn, that sex is first an emotional and sensual connection and it’s not limited to vaginal penetration, that the well-being of your significant other in a healthy relationship is more important than the children you pro-create ( happy parents, happy kids)?
Who is going to teach that future wife that she is free to initiate sex and she doesn’t have to wait for her husband to make the first sexual move, teach her husband on what she likes and doesn’t like, that her sexual arousal is as important as her husband’s arousal, that if she squirts a large amount of fluid during sex it is normal & nothing to be ashamed of or teach that man that his erogenous zones is not limited to his penis but also includes his lips, his ears, his feet, his neck, and other areas? When as a society, will we normalize that the virginity of a man is as important as that of a woman, that being virgins doesn’t mean you should be sexually uneducated, that young men and young women should do check-ups about their sexual health as early as possible at the expense of discovering a medical condition later, that infertility could be a result of low viable sperm and not necessarily the wife’s fault? I could go on and on but I believe at this point, you understood my main message.
To parents, may the holy spirit guide you on when & how to properly educate your children as each child is unique. To growing teens, young adults & future couples may the Holy Spirit guide your steps, strengthen you and be your main Sex-Ed teacher. To the Church, may we normalize proper sexual conversations, may the Holy Spirit help us to properly educate the body of Christ on sex, so that we may flee from any temptation and remain sanctified as we await the return of Christ. To married couples, allow the Holy Spirit to help you spice up your sex life in a way that honors God. Remember God enjoys seeing you have sex and will bless your union.
Marital Sex is good. Thank God for the penis and the vagina & for teaching us when and how to use them at every stage of our lives.
Signed ✨🤎HerBlackQueen🤎✨!